There’s so much horrifying news about unplanned parenthood that it’s awoken me from my bout of blogging blasé. While Ireland overturned their ban on abortion last year, the US is regressing to the opposite. From Alabama to Missouri and Ohio, several US states passed severe legislation to restrict abortion just recently.
In the style of my original posts when this blog began, I wanted to aggregate the absurd things that dumb men (and others) have said about abortion lately, and provide responses to their regressive thinking.
Things He (or so-called Pro-Life Person) Says:
- This # of abortions have happened in history, thus this # of children have been killed. This is genocide, with more fatalities than the Holocaust or [insert other crimes against humanity].
- Birth control causes abortions.
- Abortion is murder, so murderers should go to jail.
- Women wouldn’t get pregnant if they were abstinent or practiced chastity.
- You won’t get pregnant if you use birth control.
- Fathers should have rights (to the embryo/fetus)!
- You wouldn’t have been born if your mother had an abortion.
- What about the baby?
- I/someone will adopt the baby! There are couples who can’t have children and want to adopt.
- What if that aborted child became the person who cured cancer?
Thing She (or Pro-Choice Person) Says:
- “Rabbis and Jewish advocacy organizations…slammed the comparison as offensive, exploitive, and ignorant of historical context,” and that’s all I have to say about that. An aborted embryo is not persecuted for its religion or thrown into a concentration camp to work until they die, and that’s all I have to say about that.
- Birth control (options like the pill and IUDs) literally prevents abortions. One of the many reasons why people use birth control is to prevent pregnancy. Birth control is also used to mitigate some serious medical conditions unrelated to birthing a child. Don’t forget about condoms, another form of birth control, which help prevent transmission of STIs!!!
- Ok, so you support the absolutely abhorrent Alabama legislations that criminalize those who abort (as well as their doctors and any others who may help), even in cases of rape or incest? So you’re saying that someone who someone ejecting a mass of tissue from their body (a teenager who was raped, for example) is equivalent to someone who shoots someone in the face? Not to mention how sticky this gets in practice when it comes to a pregnancy that was lost naturally. How is a formerly pregnant person supposed to prove that their sheets were bloodied from miscarriage? Or even an especially heavy period? (Not to mention that this legislation would penalize rape survivors more harshly than their rapists?!?!?!?)
- Um, hello. What century are you living in that you think women should only behave like virginal Victorian maidens?! Also this completely blames victims of rape and sexual assault for their getting pregnant. While chastity may be an aspiration way of living, it is completely divorced from reality and lived experiences. Remember those nuns who revealed abuse (and impregnation/force to abort) by priests? Prime example.
- There’s the pill, IUDs, condoms, vasectomies, and Plan B, yet not all have access to these options. Any of these options may also fail, since nothing is 100% effective (except for abstinence, but that’s not an option that should solely be preached, as mentioned above). Blocking access to safe abortion only perpetuates the cycle of poverty, turning mothers of 3 without much access to safe contraception into mothers of 6, unable to financially support the children they already have.
- Just because your penis caused the pregnancy doesn’t mean you have any right over the person you ejaculated into. You and your penis won’t ever have to endure the physiological effects of a pregnancy—pronounced weight gain, morning sickness, etc.—or other implications like needing to drop out of school or losing a job. You have no right to police the bodies of women, trans folx, and non-binary people with uteruses/uteri by rendering them as baby incubators. Thank u, next.
- Out of every four women/people with uteruses you know, one will have an abortion, hence the “Everyone loves someone who has had an abortion” quote. Perhaps you wouldn’t have been born if your grandmother (or other matrilineal relative) didn’t have an abortion when she was a teenager, which would have resulted in her marrying the dude who knocked her up. Did ya think about that?
- The majority of abortions occur in the first trimester, before the embryo has even developed into a fetus. How can an embryonic bundle of cells be considered a baby? Additionally, most pregnancies aren’t viable, and would result in miscarriage or stillbirth. Historically, fetal heartbeat was not a metric for determining personhood, but rather “quickening” and fetal movement, which happens much later in the pregnancy.
- I appreciate your altruism, but would you really adopt the more than half a million children currently in foster care? Would you have the financial resources to clothe, feed, house, and give them a happy and healthy life? So many children are never adopted and live their lives in a broken foster care system. Also, unless I’m being compensated via a surrogate program, I’m not putting myself through 9 months of total bodily transformation and many hours of excruciating labor to have a child for someone else.
- What if the mother ended up becoming the person who cured cancer, but they were deprived of that opportunity because they were forced to have a child?
Other issues that should be considered:
Plain and simple: if you’re against abortions, then don’t have them! Even though terminating a pregnancy at any stage of gestation can be emotionally and physically painful, the choice to abort or not should be available for a person to make. It is their choice alone, and some old white dude in judicial robes shouldn’t intervene. Blanket legislation that speaks for all abortions completely dismisses individual experiences and invades their individual privacy that the 14th amendment is supposed to protect.
An overall ban on abortion will NOT end abortions, it will only result in unsafe and potentially lethal abortions, a return to hanger abortions before Roe vs. Wade. For those who do not die from a back alley abortion, maternal deaths will rise because America dgaf about women, especially women of color. Black women already face statistically higher maternal mortality rates, so an anti-abortion stance is steeped in racism. Also viewing pregnant people solely as mothers is not only misogynist, but it’s also transphobic, since not all people who have uteruses identify as women.
I can only hope abortion will be a basic human right some day. Until then, I’ll share some information next post about supporting abortion providers.
If you have any thoughts about this post or want to share some ignorant or insightful things people have said, comment below!